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Grief and gratitude

From “Springs of Living Water,” the grief support e-newsletter of Optage Hospice
SOLW_Blog-On-Page_2023-03-31_500x280.jpgHere in the Midwest, the trees have shed their leaves as long dark nights give way to frosty mornings. Soon, Thanksgiving will be upon us, with the sometimes-challenging expectation to gather with others and give thanks. This can feel overwhelming for those who are grieving a loss as memories of past Thanksgivings surface, and family structures and locations shift.
If you are grieving, try to release yourself from the expectation that you need to do things as you have in years past. This year will surely feel different, and it may help to also do something different: perhaps you could order in, eat out or plan for a smaller gathering.
Thanksgiving also can bring a jumble of emotions—sadness and joy, absence and presence, grief and gratitude. Somehow, we find a way to walk with conflicting emotions—with both hands open: one thing in one hand and one in the other. The joy does not cancel out the pain, and the ache of absence does not eclipse the experience of gratitude. Our hearts have room to carry it all as we walk with hands and hearts open into this holiday season.

Grief support (Offered via Zoom)

Grief & gratitude
November 15, 7-8 PM
Optage Monthly Support Group – Meets Third Wednesday
We’ll explore the challenges (as well as potential benefits) of walking with both grief and gratitude.


Grief & the holidays
December 13, 7-8 PM


Coming in 2024…
Grief explorations (six weeks)
Tuesdays, 11 a.m. – 12 p.m.
January 9, 16, 23, 30, and February 6, 13
In this six-week group we’ll discuss the impacts of grief on the whole person and offer suggestions to ease the path.


If you are interested in joining a group, contact Optage Hospice by email or call 651-746-8200,
Optage is the home and community services division of Presbyterian Homes & Services.

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